Below you will find a post from a site I'm on! I thought to share it because it deals with a topic that many young persons ask over and over again. Read and respond or just pass along to a friend- it's time we all started to talk about this stuff!

Original Post From a Forum I was ON:
I promised my parents i wouldn't have sex till i got married. We did the whole "waiting on true love" thing, and they even gave me a special ring to wear as a sign of my commitment. I remember feeling so certain at that time-there was no way i was going to mess around. Now I just don't feel as strongly about it. When i look at the ring, I feel less certain in about what it really means to me.
My friends say sex is a rite of passage into adulthood. If that's true, then i ought to be ready for it. It's not not that i want to do it because everyone else is doing it. I want to do it for me, that's all. It's something i feel like I need to experience now.
Sometimes I imagine that somewhere a guy i"m supposed to be with someday is feeling the same pressure and temptations. I even say a prayer for him to stay strong. Maybe he's praying the same for me. Of course, sometimes I even doubt that this guy exists. He doesn't go to my school, that's for sure.
My guy friends tell me I'll never meet a guy who lives up to my standards. They say almost every guy has already done it anyway. So why fight so hard to be a virgin?
profile: Gabi

My response:

Sex is not just about the physical- its about the spiritual, and emotional. Sex (as much as young people try to say it is) is not a rite of passage. Sex isn't something to be taken lightly. Sex is serious stuff! It was created to symbolize worship in it's highest form- there is no other way you can get as close to another person than through sex. God didn't tell us as singles to remain sexually chaste because He wanted to keep us from something good- He wanted to guard our hearts.

A few scripture texts for you (go grab your Bible): 1 Corinthians 7:1, Proverbs 4:23, Song Of Songs 8: 8-9; 4:12; and 8:4. Firstly it is BETTER for a man NOT to touch a woman, you know what that means honey- tell them to get there hands off! We need to guard well our hearts honey- because all kinds of things come out when we don't control it. Next I want you to stop and think are you a wall or a door? Do you know the difference? The difference is being pure and being promiscuous. Your husband should be able to say that you are his private garden- not something that every Tom, Dick and Harry been in and around. God admonishes us not to rush nor awaken love/ sexual desires before their time because He knows that it only causes us heartaches. In His word He is adamant about us remaining sexually pure. He knows our hearts and knows that Satan will try to steal kill and destroy us in this arena.

We are given a gift (yeah I know that is such a cliched metaphor- but it's true!) that is wrapped, and once we open the wrapping- it can never be wrapped the same again. Why fight to be a virgin? Girl look around you at the persons dying from the effects of living a promiscuous life. (Unwanted pregnancies, HIV, STI's etcetera... living outside of God's will has its consequences.) Yeah you may say that you won't be promiscuous or deal with those consequences- but the one time you do can cause you to end up in the same issues. I don't have a promise to earthly parents to keep but I do have a vow with my Heavenly Father. He asks us to remain pure because He KNOWS that sex before marriage causes all kinds of dramas and traumas.

And as for your so called friends- girl they ain't for you! If they were they would admonish you to keep your vow- not for your parents- but for the God who loved and died for you. Matthew 7:6 (Cast not your pearls amongst swine.) Don't give that which is precious to any man- it is only for the man who has invested enough time to realize that He loves you and that He wants to have you as His bride. (Proverbs 31:10) He will not dishonor you/ uncover you- because to do so would be to hurt God- and He loves God so He WILL respect you!

As to where he is right now- girl keep praying! God has Him protected- in whatever capacity he comes. 2 Timothy 1:12(He is able to keep that which I have committed unto Him against that day...) Oh and as for there not being any more virgins girl that's a lie of the enemy! I have a lot of Christian male friends who are still sexually chaste. Don't worry about it- God's word is sure! Trust me I have been where you are and I am so glad that I kept my vow and that I am continuing to keep it.

Hope that you are encouraged and that you realize that God loves you more than any man ever could!

Nat
*My strength is as the strength of ten men because my heart is pure!*- Sir Galahad